Serving Sara (2002) | The Girl Next Door (2004) | The Sweetest Thing (2002) | Romy & Michelle’s High School Reunion (1997) | Austin Powers (1997) | Breakfast at Tiffany’s (1961) | View from the Top (2003) | Pearl (2022) | Scary Movie 2 (2001) | 27 Dresses (2008) | The Wolf of Wall Street (2013) | Niagara (1953) | Coyote Ugly (2000) | Cinderella (1950) | Coming to America (1988) | How to Marry a Millionaire (1953) | Jennifer’s Body (2009) | Miss Congeniality (2000) | Funny Face (1957) | The Love Witch (2016) | Ziegfeld Follies (1945) | Nope (2022) | Legally Blonde (2001) | American Horror Story: Freakshow (2014) | Bring it On (2000) | Crossroads (2002) | Clueless (1995) | Marie Antoinette (2006) | The Fly (1986) | The Seven Year Itch (1955)
“You can’t make them - whoever your particular them is - do anything, really,” said Ekaterin slowly. “Adulthood isn’t an award they’ll give you for being a good child. … You have to just…take it. Give it to yourself, I suppose. Say, I’m sorry you feel like that, and walk away. But that’s hard.”
- Lois McMaster Bujold, A Civil Campaign
I can’t tell you how clarifying the quote above was for me, when I was younger. If you grow up as a people-pleaser–say, because of volatile, emotionally unstable parents–it can feel so demoralizing and awful when you start enforcing your own boundaries, when you deal with the fact that people who are perfectly lovely when they hear ‘yes’ can become incredibly hostile when they hear 'no’.
I love it when people try to claim representation in fiction is being taken “too far” to the point where it’s no believable. They’re like:
“What’s next, a mixed-race immigrant on the autism spectrum?” Hi, my name is Rachel, also known as Rachna, and I’m a mixed-race immigrant on the autism spectrum.
“What’s next, a transgender Latino man with chronic pain?” What, you mean my former colleague, Marco?
“What’s next, a Black Jewish lesbian?” Bitch, I know I three Black Jewish lesbians, WHAT’S YOUR FUCKING POINT?
everyone rb this with your identity a white dudebro would call forced diversity in the tags